You know how relating can be tight. Sometimes we find ourselves hanging on by a thread, sometimes barely relating with each other despite occupying the same spaces, and sometimes we have made commitments that may not allow us to let go.

Many times when we relate we focus on the feel-good factor and we may not necessarily focus on deep issues like how our actions and reactions are met by the people we relate to. Sometimes these actions and reactions create deep rifts between the relationship and you find it’s not as much fun as it was when we started out.

The problem is, that when we only focus on the feel-good sensation that comes in the early stages of love, we may not focus on why our partners do what they do to us, and how what we do with them makes them feel. We miss out on discussing the visions of our love relationships, about how little big and small things are likely to play out in the course of our being together and about our hidden fears and undoings, yet these are the things that dictate how smoothly our relationships will go.

Let’s take an example of a man who does not feel appreciated for what he does in the relationship, which may not mean the woman does not appreciate, but rather has not communicated verbally so the man is unsure. He then gets a void inside him, of wanting to share this most times painful fact but most probably will not find it easy to bring it up with his partner because there has not been the cultivation of this kind of conversation in this relationship prior to him feeling this way.

Or take an example of a man who wishes for his partner to take up some of the roles in the relationship but this desire has been popping up over time and he can not see how to bring it up for discussion. He moves and lives with an unmet need.

It is always important that at the start of a relationship before any commitments have been made, we talk about deep issues of our persons.

At Hamona we appreciate the power of talking and giving of self in material, physical and emotional ways because we know this to be the foundation of an enjoyable relationship. And, because most people skip this important step in the build-up of their love affairs, Hamona has committed to helping you evaluate where your relationship is at, and how best you can move it forward and create harmony for a beautiful fulfilling relationship.

We bring you our exciting picnic treat package where we have included carefully thought out love play cards that will guide you into having deeper insights into your relationship and create a deeper understanding for your partner.

We shall be rolling out this exciting addition to our treats starting next week and you can always get in touch with us to see which package suits your current relationship state.

At Hamona we love. We want to see you love. Love the best and most exciting way possible because honestly, we only live once. We ought to make it memorable.

Emotional health. It has to be a conscious effort. It has to be a relentless mission. It has to be an ever-present goal.

The emotional health of both your partner and your relationship. The hidden reason we work hard, the hidden reason we strive as much to be gratified. That’s true for all of us. Each gratification may come in different colours but will be gratification nonetheless.

Money, after you attain it, will help you to attain the things that make your heart relax and bring you peace of mind. You will then be grateful that you are not yearning or anxious for anything. Your emotions will be healthy.

Similarly, while relating, if your partner can give you that same feeling, you will be grateful and relaxed and happy, all these are healthy emotions.

However, in our quest for the other things that aid us to get the things that make us grateful, we forget the unions for which we strive, from which we get healthy emotions. We forget the people that we partner with to help us attain that lasting gratification, we forget that daily we have to check on their state of well being and ability to still walk with us through our goals of attaining gratification.

We give in to the pressures of the world and sometimes they make us tense, that when we try to relate with our partners, we are inconsiderate of their feelings and we do not give them enough attention.

What this does is that it creates frustration in their hearts and with time they learn to find things that will give them pleasure or gratification. Problem is, that sometimes the things that give them gratification are other people taking on the roles we have neglected, then our union will suffer, and sad thing is, by the time you may realise the relationship is changing from what you originally envisioned, allegiance has already been shifted and now a war of sorts breaks out.

Emotional health. It is that which will help us communicate important or even hard stuff to our partners because we both believe in our goal. It breeds trust.

Emotional health is that which makes us value our partner’s point of view even when it’s different. It breeds understanding.

Emotional health. It is that which helps us think about what the other needs and we try to help them achieve it. It breeds empathy.

Emotional health. It is that which values companionship and closeness. It breeds unity.

Emotional health. It is that which guides us to the Hamona online shop to buy a treat even if it’s just for just. It breeds appreciation.

Emotional health is that which makes us daily strive to be the best versions of ourselves to our partners. It breeds long-lasting gratification.

Emotional health. It is an art that we can all learn. It is that essential to our well being. It is the reason we are at peace with who we are.

It might seem like we only write about problems in relating. Which is a bit true, but we look at it this way: We love by acknowledging the bad too. We know that when the love is right, somehow everything falls in place and all the stars are the right size. Every one of us has a different way of loving and a preferred way of being loved.

It is only when love goes bad or is going bad, that we may have a unified way of feeling. It hurts. Period. So, because we know what brings on the pain, we try to address those issues we have realised make love go sour, all in an effort to keep it sweet because ultimately, at Hamona we love; we want you to love, to love the best and sweetest way possible.

So today we will just say a little something about our products and come back in the next post with our love issues.

We bake our products with you in mind. There come times when you just want to close your eyes and give yourself a sweet feeling. We call this self-love. Love comes easy when you love yourself well, so in those times when you feel like you want to appreciate yourself and motivate yourself, reach out and order a treat from our online shop. We Deliver to your doorstep at a fee, depending on where you are located. Reach out, order yourself a Hamona treat.

Also, we bake with your loved ones in mind. In those times when you just want to sweetly say I love you or I appreciate you, reach out and order them a Hamona treat. Love is sweeter when done right, and nothing is more right than telling your special person that you think about them without using words. Who doesn’t want to receive sweet surprises?

At Hamona we love. We want you to love.

Let’s talk about fear today. A strong man is not one that has eliminated all possible and definite sources of fear, but one who is ready to slice through all possible situations with a calm mind.

What situations you would ask? Not those that involve physical muscle even if it’s necessary but those that involve emotional muscle. Let’s take for example the case where your woman is being swayed by another man. For many a man, this will call for some kind of physical involvement, either with the woman or with the man.

Have you ever thought that you can actually settle these kinds of situations simply by trying to be understanding? There is this situation that happens with incumbents (current men). This normally is the reason voids are created in the hearts of women.

As the man in her life, you have probably given her loads of flowers and you don’t think she needs any more of that, you have taken her many places and you have run short of places to take her, you have bought her several pieces and whole cakes, you probably think there is no need to buy her Hamona treats, you have probably given her many big things you think there’s no need for small things… or actually you have not given her anything or taken her places but you have done things in the interest of your future together…. you have done much really, you think it’s enough to ride on for the rest of your lives.

But here is the thing: relationships are like flowers, you can water it diligently and it flourishes, but when you stop, it will gradually wilt because of the lack. The gradual lack is what creates the gradual void and you find your woman being lured by a new man who now is just starting to shower her with all the attention you have not showered her with for some time. She starts to glow and love it too. We all love to feel good. So rather than try to fight because you think she is making you seem inferior and she seems ungrateful for all you have done for her, it’s about time to revert her attention to your relationship by listening and trying to understand the situation you two have gotten into and begin showering her heart with desire. Again.

We rarely want to admit that even people in love can fall for others outside their affair, mainly because admitting to such is to somehow show that we are not as good as we ought to be. Many will tell you that if you have fallen for a new one, it means you never loved the first one in the first place. Wrong. Love fades especially if we do not work at maintaining it.

You may love your woman real deeply but find that she is picking on attention from another man, as it so often happens. So does that mean she has never loved you or has always lied to you? Noooo, does that call for you going physical with her in a violent way or with the new guy because you feel violated? I think not, because more often than not, we can straighten this by just listening to her why’s. This is when emotional strength comes in to banish the fear you could be having, that you could be less ideal for her and which fear makes you start feeling insecure about yourself.

When your woman is falling for another it’s not time to be afraid. It’s time to evaluate. It’s time to restart. Often times a woman will follow another man’s advances because there has been a void created in her by the way you love her. Believe me, sometimes they don’t actually go out looking but they find themselves either manipulated by sleek men who know how to recognise the void in them, or they simply slip into the feel-good feeling that comes with new interest from a new person.

I think men should normalise talking to their women in an effort to evaluate how well it’s going. And, yes, and, if a woman should voice interest in another person it shouldn’t be the beginning of a fight, but rather the beginning of a trace into where things went off track. Instead of being all scared that you are not man enough for her, it should be the time to re-evaluate yourself and re-align with her needs. After all, if she fell for you in the first place, there must have been some good in you and if she is straying, that good must have slipped or must be slipping. It’s in your best interest to help her find her way back to your heart instead of following another. Love is about hearts feeling good. So regular goodness makes good loving.

It’s possible. You have to be strong and lead your relationship to where you want it to be. You have to be an emotionally intelligent and strong leader. No need for fear, only love wins here.

Don’t forget we are still buying treats from Hamona to excite our women, by now you know that. Hit the shop and place your order now.

Hamona. We love. Love.

So today we listen to different women’s love songs.

I thought it would be great to hear from women about how they are made to feel loved, and below are their voices…. Names changed for security purposes

He comes into your life, he opens up places you never knew existed, he gives you the energy you never knew you could feel, he gives you hope for tomorrow like you could keep it in your pocket, he makes your feet so light you might as well just be floating not walking, he fills you up and you want for nothing even if you have nothing. This is the beauty of love.

How does he love you that makes you feel all these emotions??

Wow, let me look through it…..I have felt loved when he picks me up all the time, 🤗every time he wants to take me someplace nice and that made me feel special – Patience

I feel loved because he Holds me in high esteem. I know that even behind my back he can stand proud of me. Whether am with or without his presence I feel his love for me. – Naira

My man believes in me and listens to me all the time. When I face hard times I look forward to him holding me tight and then he listens then I say everything I feel. I feel loved this way. – Jacinta

We are like best friends with my boyfriend. Even when he is at work or upcountry, he calls me before he goes to sleep and he tells me about his day. I feel like he is always here with me and I feel important to him. I feel like am the other part of him and this keeps me wanting to be my best self so I can make him happy like he makes me happy. – Rhona

My man can beat up your man 😊. OK… he is not violent but I feel like he is strong enough to protect me from all harm. When I tell him whatever is disturbing me he is always there to sort it out for me. I don’t provoke people but I don’t fear anyone because I know he will always protect me. – Mercy

I sometimes get upset and unhappy. And when my husband notices am in this mood he starts checking on me from time to time and asks if am well or happy and he is always asking what I feel like doing to be happier. I feel cared for and sometimes when am upset I smile because I know he is somewhere thinking about me. – Monica

He takes time and talks to me about what’s going on and he tries to spend time with me, he holds me close when we watch a movie and he always brings home cookies for our weekend movie time. I look forward to weekends and I feel like he is the most caring man in the world. He is so thoughtful. – Joan

My husband has the clearest mind I think. When I tell him things I can almost hear him taking them straight to his heart. I don’t know but I feel like he is extra attentive without appearing intentional. I feel like he is genuinely interested in me. I feel like a prize I tell you… – Doryn.

So there you have it. How have you loved your woman? Are these women communicating something?

Let’s buy cake while we think about it all.

Hamona. We love. Love.