Category: Relationships

Sometimes men are touched by women who are not their own when they see how those women seem to prop their men up. True, women help motivate men to be their best selves by supporting them and believing them in their endeavours.

Deep down every woman has a desire to see their man get to the top. Professionally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

Some women however are unable to do this because some men do not provide an enabling environment for such growth.

Take for example a woman who checks on a man when he is so late coming home but is reprimanded for being insecure or weak. A few times of trying this will make the woman give up and try to not care. Because the reason she calls in the first place is to check on her sweetheart’s well being. Although women know that men are strong and can take care of themselves, they still care to know if there’s a way they can support them in whichever way they can. They call out of care.

It would be simpler for her if she called and the man let her know not to worry because he is out late with friends and he will be safe. Such a woman will relax and do what she needs to do while waiting for his return. Maybe take a short nap so she can wait on him when he is having dinner later, or warm some water for him if that’s not a privilege in their washrooms, and she will generally be in a good mood to hear about his day when he finally comes home, or even the following day if it’s too late to talk when he gets home.

Talking back kindly to women and validating their concerns builds confidence in them which then they use to believe in and support their men in whatever they do.

Let’s look at another way that may stand in the way of women propping their men up. Some men actually do not have a plan. Not a drive. They live the day as it comes. They don’t have a road map.

While some men have a vague idea of how they want their tomorrow to look like and discuss their road maps with their women who end up helping them make it clearer and sometimes walk with them, other men can actually not share their plans with their women. They have an unhealthy belief that women are of little capability, thereby ignoring the fact that women as their helpers are supposed to see them through whatever plan they have chosen to follow.

Other men still, simply do not have a plan! These men are irritated by the woman trying to help them formulate a plan for a road map they may both follow to a better tomorrow, they see the woman as trying to be dominant. But the woman is in a dilemma. She knows her role is not to plan for this man’s future because that too will make him feel less manly, but she is denied her role of helper to help this man and they both find themselves trudging on aimlessly, frustrated and bitter.

Women in what seems like their weakness are strong beings. Women are very protective of their men in all aspects and a man who allows his woman to play her role will find peace in life because she will accord him all the soft support he needs to achieve his goals.

The women men admire as having supported their men to their best potential are the women whose men have discovered the power of a woman’s role in being there to walk with them on their journey to their set goals.

Where are you in your relationship with your woman? Have you let her take on her role to help you succeed emotionally, physically, professionally and spiritually or do you think that the other women you see from a distance are made of a different breed?

We sell cakes here, by the way, we write these articles so passionately sometimes we fail to keep reminding you to buy your woman a Hamona treat from our shop. That’s how much we care about the emotional health of your relationship.

Please order a treat from our shop. Let us cake your feelings. That’s what we do.

Hamona. We love. Love.

You know how relating can be tight. Sometimes we find ourselves hanging on by a thread, sometimes barely relating with each other despite occupying the same spaces, and sometimes we have made commitments that may not allow us to let go.

Many times when we relate we focus on the feel-good factor and we may not necessarily focus on deep issues like how our actions and reactions are met by the people we relate to. Sometimes these actions and reactions create deep rifts between the relationship and you find it’s not as much fun as it was when we started out.

The problem is, that when we only focus on the feel-good sensation that comes in the early stages of love, we may not focus on why our partners do what they do to us, and how what we do with them makes them feel. We miss out on discussing the visions of our love relationships, about how little big and small things are likely to play out in the course of our being together and about our hidden fears and undoings, yet these are the things that dictate how smoothly our relationships will go.

Let’s take an example of a man who does not feel appreciated for what he does in the relationship, which may not mean the woman does not appreciate, but rather has not communicated verbally so the man is unsure. He then gets a void inside him, of wanting to share this most times painful fact but most probably will not find it easy to bring it up with his partner because there has not been the cultivation of this kind of conversation in this relationship prior to him feeling this way.

Or take an example of a man who wishes for his partner to take up some of the roles in the relationship but this desire has been popping up over time and he can not see how to bring it up for discussion. He moves and lives with an unmet need.

It is always important that at the start of a relationship before any commitments have been made, we talk about deep issues of our persons.

At Hamona we appreciate the power of talking and giving of self in material, physical and emotional ways because we know this to be the foundation of an enjoyable relationship. And, because most people skip this important step in the build-up of their love affairs, Hamona has committed to helping you evaluate where your relationship is at, and how best you can move it forward and create harmony for a beautiful fulfilling relationship.

We bring you our exciting picnic treat package where we have included carefully thought out love play cards that will guide you into having deeper insights into your relationship and create a deeper understanding for your partner.

We shall be rolling out this exciting addition to our treats starting next week and you can always get in touch with us to see which package suits your current relationship state.

At Hamona we love. We want to see you love. Love the best and most exciting way possible because honestly, we only live once. We ought to make it memorable.

Emotional health. It has to be a conscious effort. It has to be a relentless mission. It has to be an ever-present goal.

The emotional health of both your partner and your relationship. The hidden reason we work hard, the hidden reason we strive as much to be gratified. That’s true for all of us. Each gratification may come in different colours but will be gratification nonetheless.

Money, after you attain it, will help you to attain the things that make your heart relax and bring you peace of mind. You will then be grateful that you are not yearning or anxious for anything. Your emotions will be healthy.

Similarly, while relating, if your partner can give you that same feeling, you will be grateful and relaxed and happy, all these are healthy emotions.

However, in our quest for the other things that aid us to get the things that make us grateful, we forget the unions for which we strive, from which we get healthy emotions. We forget the people that we partner with to help us attain that lasting gratification, we forget that daily we have to check on their state of well being and ability to still walk with us through our goals of attaining gratification.

We give in to the pressures of the world and sometimes they make us tense, that when we try to relate with our partners, we are inconsiderate of their feelings and we do not give them enough attention.

What this does is that it creates frustration in their hearts and with time they learn to find things that will give them pleasure or gratification. Problem is, that sometimes the things that give them gratification are other people taking on the roles we have neglected, then our union will suffer, and sad thing is, by the time you may realise the relationship is changing from what you originally envisioned, allegiance has already been shifted and now a war of sorts breaks out.

Emotional health. It is that which will help us communicate important or even hard stuff to our partners because we both believe in our goal. It breeds trust.

Emotional health is that which makes us value our partner’s point of view even when it’s different. It breeds understanding.

Emotional health. It is that which helps us think about what the other needs and we try to help them achieve it. It breeds empathy.

Emotional health. It is that which values companionship and closeness. It breeds unity.

Emotional health. It is that which guides us to the Hamona online shop to buy a treat even if it’s just for just. It breeds appreciation.

Emotional health is that which makes us daily strive to be the best versions of ourselves to our partners. It breeds long-lasting gratification.

Emotional health. It is an art that we can all learn. It is that essential to our well being. It is the reason we are at peace with who we are.

It might seem like we only write about problems in relating. Which is a bit true, but we look at it this way: We love by acknowledging the bad too. We know that when the love is right, somehow everything falls in place and all the stars are the right size. Every one of us has a different way of loving and a preferred way of being loved.

It is only when love goes bad or is going bad, that we may have a unified way of feeling. It hurts. Period. So, because we know what brings on the pain, we try to address those issues we have realised make love go sour, all in an effort to keep it sweet because ultimately, at Hamona we love; we want you to love, to love the best and sweetest way possible.

So today we will just say a little something about our products and come back in the next post with our love issues.

We bake our products with you in mind. There come times when you just want to close your eyes and give yourself a sweet feeling. We call this self-love. Love comes easy when you love yourself well, so in those times when you feel like you want to appreciate yourself and motivate yourself, reach out and order a treat from our online shop. We Deliver to your doorstep at a fee, depending on where you are located. Reach out, order yourself a Hamona treat.

Also, we bake with your loved ones in mind. In those times when you just want to sweetly say I love you or I appreciate you, reach out and order them a Hamona treat. Love is sweeter when done right, and nothing is more right than telling your special person that you think about them without using words. Who doesn’t want to receive sweet surprises?

At Hamona we love. We want you to love.